2 weeks ago
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Mr2Nice123:– A single 40-somethings guide to dating
Crazy times in datingland!
Times like these it’s best to have some good friends to lean on for advice. Arlene of course is always helpful and the best for a gal’s point of view. Like pointing out “Sympathy dates can lead to stalkers” or “His problem is he was Raised on a Planet that does Not have the Same Social Rules as Earth”…..but sometimes it’s handy to have a straight single male’s point of view. Kind of like a testosterone translation service for single gals. And of course the following are out:
· Relatives, who will be shocked at your social life (“You’d kiss him on the third date? Slut!”)
· the guy you are seeing, who will tell you what you want to hear
· gay friends, will tell you how fabulous you are, but may not have great straight advice
Luckily, I have one easily reached by e-mail. He’s been handy to have in my pocket so far – my last question on how to let someone down gently after a few dates (see ‘kissing your brother’ above) netted 2 possible responses and a rationale for each. So if you are single, please find one now. Invaluable, I promise.
For an update on the dating front – dinner last week with “D” again, -- again, nice. I think he has not had a lot of experience with women. No flirting (ok some moony eyes over the curry), no arm touching, or move to kiss. I did give him a quick peck goodbye (sorry Arlene) but no more chemistry. And he referred to it as a ‘smooch’ in an e-mail later. So, I’ve promised to accompany him to an event that needed prior confirmation on Saturday, but then I need to not see him anymore. I wish I could give him some confidence!!
Phone conversations with “W” and “J” took place, conversation with “W” turned into a quick coffee the next day, verrry nice. “J” nice on the phone too, but probably won’t meet him in person, his lifestyle is a bit collegiate for me at this point, so we probably wouldn’t have a lot in common.
Dinner with “R” was great…planning to get together again this week. He is definitely a rip my clothes off kind of guy…but was a complete gentleman (I set ground rules ahead of time and he was good at following them!). He also sends the best flirty e-mails. And he has a deep purring voice….sigh...
My conundrum now is whether to see “W” again, or to wait to see what develops with “R”...stay tuned!!
~Soup
Times like these it’s best to have some good friends to lean on for advice. Arlene of course is always helpful and the best for a gal’s point of view. Like pointing out “Sympathy dates can lead to stalkers” or “His problem is he was Raised on a Planet that does Not have the Same Social Rules as Earth”…..but sometimes it’s handy to have a straight single male’s point of view. Kind of like a testosterone translation service for single gals. And of course the following are out:
· Relatives, who will be shocked at your social life (“You’d kiss him on the third date? Slut!”)
· the guy you are seeing, who will tell you what you want to hear
· gay friends, will tell you how fabulous you are, but may not have great straight advice
Luckily, I have one easily reached by e-mail. He’s been handy to have in my pocket so far – my last question on how to let someone down gently after a few dates (see ‘kissing your brother’ above) netted 2 possible responses and a rationale for each. So if you are single, please find one now. Invaluable, I promise.
For an update on the dating front – dinner last week with “D” again, -- again, nice. I think he has not had a lot of experience with women. No flirting (ok some moony eyes over the curry), no arm touching, or move to kiss. I did give him a quick peck goodbye (sorry Arlene) but no more chemistry. And he referred to it as a ‘smooch’ in an e-mail later. So, I’ve promised to accompany him to an event that needed prior confirmation on Saturday, but then I need to not see him anymore. I wish I could give him some confidence!!
Phone conversations with “W” and “J” took place, conversation with “W” turned into a quick coffee the next day, verrry nice. “J” nice on the phone too, but probably won’t meet him in person, his lifestyle is a bit collegiate for me at this point, so we probably wouldn’t have a lot in common.
Dinner with “R” was great…planning to get together again this week. He is definitely a rip my clothes off kind of guy…but was a complete gentleman (I set ground rules ahead of time and he was good at following them!). He also sends the best flirty e-mails. And he has a deep purring voice….sigh...
My conundrum now is whether to see “W” again, or to wait to see what develops with “R”...stay tuned!!
~Soup
Thursday, November 09, 2006
You don't have to be a Biker to appreciate....
Wrist Cuffs! I have been making leather wrist bands that have a zippered compartment that you can keep small change in. Let me know what you think.
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
Mr2Nice123: A single 40-somethings guide to dating
Chemistry…. does it grow or is it there from the beginning??
OK, in the last couple of weeks (since date with coffee guy) I changed my pics on the dating sites. Now I’m finding my self pretty popular. (Can you hear me dancing to my theme song ‘It’s Raining Men’ by the Weathergirls??)
So far the action has been: one date with ‘D’ mentioned at the end of the last blog, with 2 more planned. Date with ‘R’ planned for this week. Phone conversations from ‘W’ and ‘J’ to take place some time in the future. Lots of smiles, nods, winks and various “How you doin’s?” from assorted other men who are not exactly what I’m looking for. Oh, oh now what….
OK, as for ‘D’. Super nice, interesting, makes me laugh, a sweet man so far....based on a couple of weeks of e-mails, phone conversations etc. However when I was actually with him I did not feel any physical chemistry from my side. (Kind of nerdy & shorter than me a bit) Now I know when this physical chemistry hits me, remember High School Hottie? Basically he could just smile at me and my clothes just kind of jumped off my body (or was that me jumping him?).
So girls, a conundrum…does a physical attraction grow? So far I’ve had a consistent vote for the no's. (3 for 3) He is so nice, too. I’m going to see him this week for dinner.
My gut is I will know for sure after I have dinner Sunday with ‘R’, with whom my gut is telling me (after e-mails and phone conversations as well) is a rip my clothes off type of guy.
Votes please, nice or naughty!
~Soup
OK, in the last couple of weeks (since date with coffee guy) I changed my pics on the dating sites. Now I’m finding my self pretty popular. (Can you hear me dancing to my theme song ‘It’s Raining Men’ by the Weathergirls??)
So far the action has been: one date with ‘D’ mentioned at the end of the last blog, with 2 more planned. Date with ‘R’ planned for this week. Phone conversations from ‘W’ and ‘J’ to take place some time in the future. Lots of smiles, nods, winks and various “How you doin’s?” from assorted other men who are not exactly what I’m looking for. Oh, oh now what….
OK, as for ‘D’. Super nice, interesting, makes me laugh, a sweet man so far....based on a couple of weeks of e-mails, phone conversations etc. However when I was actually with him I did not feel any physical chemistry from my side. (Kind of nerdy & shorter than me a bit) Now I know when this physical chemistry hits me, remember High School Hottie? Basically he could just smile at me and my clothes just kind of jumped off my body (or was that me jumping him?).
So girls, a conundrum…does a physical attraction grow? So far I’ve had a consistent vote for the no's. (3 for 3) He is so nice, too. I’m going to see him this week for dinner.
My gut is I will know for sure after I have dinner Sunday with ‘R’, with whom my gut is telling me (after e-mails and phone conversations as well) is a rip my clothes off type of guy.
Votes please, nice or naughty!
~Soup
Friday, November 03, 2006
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